Fundamentalism is an immoral application of good intentions — Note: I use “wokeness,” “cancel culture,” and “The Church of Social Justice” interchangeably and as different from “social justice.” Keep reading for further explanation. Imagined audience are white social justice activists. At age 30, I felt devastated and violated to learn that, at age 16, I put too much trust…

How can something be simultaneously so shocking, yet so obvious? — Table of Contents How I figured it out How it feels to find out at age 43 that you’re autistic when only one person close to you ever flagged it A few things you need to understand about autism How I figured it out Over a decade ago, a friend whose child was a Level 1 autistic (at…

In response to Chapter 5 of The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling and transphobic rhetoric — I am directing this at people who have ever been accused of being a “TERF.” If you think I’ve missed something important by the time you get to the end, if you are not convinced that I’m correct in my positions, please head to the comments section and tell me…

Responding to episode 4 of The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling — Preface: I don’t really know if “no one” is saying this. I think that’s unlikely but it’s annoyingly difficult to write pithy-yet-accurate titles for essays that draw readers in. What is 100% fact is that I’ve never heard anyone explain it this way. But that’s also not saying much. ;) …

Why I’m listening to The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling — I’m aware that some people, including close friends of mine, are interpreting the title of this podcast as J.K. Rowling apologetics and, as such, they don’t want to support the podcast with their ears. I’m sympathetic to what I think the fear is: This podcast will create a narrative of…

Imagine how our godlike bodies could be venerated by everyone — Nothing has clarified for me the issue of sexism in mental health and medical practice in general like having and treating my Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This will be less of an organized essay and more of a rant.

And let’s rein in the mental health shaming, PLEASE — TW: Transphobia, suicidality Our favourite SAHM since 2002 has been quiet lately. We’ve watched her grow increasingly thin and widely suspected anorexia. Her writing, which has always been quirky and creative, has become difficult to follow. Today, she posted what is arguably the most incoherent of recent blog posts, wherein…

Let's gather in ways that make each other better for knowing each other — There was a fun illustrator guy here in Vancouver named Dan who tried a thing last year. He put up an ad for a partner, with a $7000 reward attached. I don’t know if it worked but he sure got a lot of attention. This is low-key like that. I…

It is no longer socially acceptable to be an adult without this skill — NOTE: This post is not referring to social justice-related conversations online. Sometimes people don’t intend to be racist or sexist but what they say is so widely perceived that way that it will be experienced by people as an injustice, as just one of thousands of interactions like it that…