I can't imagine how tired you feel because I am also really tired and sad and worried and angry and....

I'm also worried about people who will listen to J.K. Rowling and be persuaded by her because she's an intelligent woman who has a wonderful way with words. But that's exactly why people like me (and not you) should listen to know what to say in response. And I do believe I know what to say to her.

Again, the argument here is not that anyone should listen to this podcast or to JKR in general. The argument is that it's not inherently wrong to do so. It can also be a way to be a trans ally. Certainly, responding to someone like JKR without being able to quote her exact words and understand the entire context is never going to have the credibility needed to persuade her or people like her. I never listen to a critic who works with a rephrasing of what I've said or an impression of what I've said or an opinion based on what someone else told them I said.

I wonder how much correlation there is between transphobia and just general sexual prudeishness. Because, would they be okay with trans men if they didn't insist they were men? Like, what if some butch women still identified as women but they looked 100% like men simply because some people think it's hot. would these people be okay with that then? And then would they want trans men in their bathrooms? I think a part of it is that they're just uncomfortable with people who they don't think are sexually attractive and they can't believe that anyone thinks they are. Trans people are beautiful and sexy.