Using force to create any social change will never work
We need transformation. Here’s how.
When you think about something in your life that isn’t working for you, that is in severe misalignment with either your values or your needs, do you think to yourself, “This needs slow but lasting improvement over years”? Do you think, “I need to sit with this longer and rule out the ways I’m the problem”?
No. You think, “Fuck this shit yesterday.”
Or, in professional email-speak, “This needs a transformation. This needs a radical shift as soon as possible.”
I’m sure we all relate to this meme:
But this is exactly how so many of us approach problems, whether relationship, work, or social problems. We want dramatic change now. We make fast decisions. We push people toward our visions. We force people to pick sides and form opinions with very little information or time to think about it.
Have you noticed how we don’t reward “fence-sitters” or “flip-floppers”? Look at how we have pejorative terms for people who don’t form strong opinions quickly and don’t make rash decisions, but “opinionated,”…
